|Muddy Puzzler keeping an eye on Muddy Hubby crutching|
|Muddy Organiser in the wool at shearing time|
Lately I've been thinking a lot about honesty with kids. Yesterday even more so when we were talking with the Muddy Pixie, Muddy Hubby was carrying a shovel and the conversation went something like this:
Muddy Pixie: 'Dad why do you have a shovel?'
Muddy Hubby: 'To dig a hole'
Muddy Pixie: 'Like to dig a hole to put Mr H in when he died'
Not - 'like when we plant flowers in the garden' or 'like when we're planting our veggies', it was straight to the big cemetery plot!
We have always been pretty upfront with our kids, when a friend and neighbour passed away recently we talked to them about what happened and the process of a funeral. We talked about how people age and some times people die young, we talked about how at a funeral we go to remember the person and say our final goodbyes. We talked about the coffin and the burial and cremation for some people.
In our house the Muddy Kids see life in all it's form. They help us put the Rams in the paddock and understand that they have to get together with the Ewes to make Baby Lambs. They've seen sheep get sick and die, they know that when we weigh lambs to find the heavy ones, that we then load them on the truck to send to the saleyards, and that most likely they're going to be turned into lamb chops or a nice roast.
Then there's the pet pigs that we fed up and then sent away to be made into pork roasts, ham and bacon. The girls knew they were going and when we picked the boxes up from town they asked to see them, we talked about how 'Bacon' and 'Chook Eggs' had been turned into meat that we could eat.
Is it too much honesty though. Should we be sugar coating it a bit more, letting them think that the lambs are going to live in a paddock with more feed or that the pigs have run away to another farm? Or is it better to be completely honest, so there's no surprises later on?
How honest are you with your kids? How do you explain death and funerals to them?
Do your kids know where their meals come from?